This past week someone I dearly love made an amends to me when I least expected it. Those are the best ones! Recovery has given me so much freedom in putting the past behind me that if the amends never came, it would not have to affect our relationship IF I practiced what I learned. I love the part about letting go of the past and pressing on that Scripture constantly tells me and recovery reinforces. When the words came to me with a humble apology it was a soothing salve to my heart and joy deep in my soul. I shared with the one who spoke to me that when our relationship began to be restored that all was forgiven and put behind me but their words meant the world to me.
Hazelden (Treatment) has such great information on their website and so I've linked to their page about amends. Their page reiterated that amends is not merely an apology but a change as well. My special one's heart changed months back and our relationship began to walk in a new path. When I received precious, heartfelt words from one I love, they said that they meant to say this to me before but the opportunity hadn't come up and then life got in the way. :)
It's never too late to make a true amends. Even if the person you've wronged or who has wronged you is no longer around, you can do something in their honor in many ways. Plant a tree, sign up to be an organ donor, give a book to another in their memory, volunteer with their favorite organization. The list is unending.
So, seize the day friends! You've nothing to lose but precious moments that could be love filled instead of gaping holes sucking the life out of you.