My dearly departed mother was a strong-willed gal who spoke her mind often. She believed in giving her opinion often without an invitation. She may have been right most of the time, but as you know, this opinion giving is usually not appreciated.
The apple doesn't fall far from the tree so my words, as previously stated, have been in training. More specifically, my brain to mouth syntax. I'm of the opinion, due to many previous word wounds, that what I'm thinking doesn't have to be shared. The truth must be spoken, but not just because I know the facts. Reading the scriptures for years has been driving this point home and at times I go along willingly. Other times, the redhead living in my skin bucks the system so, 99.9% of the time when I do buck the system I end up eating my words and/or regretting them.
Yesterday's "Courage to Change" talked about thinking before speaking even when I'm right about something being discussed. If I haven't been invited to join a conversation, or if I hear something that could be repeated as gossip, I need to be quiet. Keeping a matter to myself doesn't make me deceitful or a liar because I didn't share what I know especially if I haven't been asked or it isn't my information to give. This discipline makes me truthworthy and discerning. Learning to think before I speak has not been without pain, but it's been worth the result.
With that, the Bible says:
"Use your heads as you live and work among outsiders. Don't miss a trick. Make the most of every opportunity. Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out."
Col 4:5-6 The Message
I like that goal and aim to practice it daily ~ Have a great Friday!